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Most
of us don't like to think about death, therefore we are unprepared
for the death of a loved one. This makes it harder to face.
However, there are healthy ways to work through grief. With time,
the loss can become more bearable and life can be fulfilling once
again. We must understand that grief is a normal process, and that
people express grief in different ways. They also go through the process
of grief and coping with grief at their own pace. So although it seems
that it will never get better, with time and the loving concern of
those around us, we will get better. |
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Losing someone affects all people differently. It is not unusual
to feel fear, guilt, anger, depression, or even physically ill.
It helps to get rest, maintain a healthy diet, and to stay active.
Losing
someone changes our life. Its not bad to ask for help. Don't
go through grief alone. You can join a bereavement support group,
see your religious advisor, or talk to local mental health associates.
Healing
grief takes time. Allow yourself to grieve. Don't make major
decisions rashly. Express your feelings, and keep up your faith.
Keep your loved one's memory alive by keeping a photo album or scrapbook.
Save keepsakes, share memories with friends, complete a project
that your loved one began, and set aside time to think.
Life
goes on -- yours can too. Even though your loved one is gone,
they can still be a part of your life. Cherish your memories, and
let yourself heal and grow.
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Below
are some selected books and videos about coping with death, that
you can order through Turners.
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BOOKS: |
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YOU
AND YOUR GRIEF - Edgar N. Jackson |
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HOW
TO SURVIVE THE LOSS OF A LOVE - Melba Colgrove, Ph.D., Harold
H. Bloomfield, M.D., Peter McWilliams |
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EARLY
WINTER Learning to Live, Love and Laugh Again After a Painful
- Loss Howard Bronson |
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AFTER
THE FLOWERS HAVE GONE Coping with the Problems of the Widowed
- Bea Decker |
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BEREAVED
CHILDREN AND TEENS A Support Guide for Parents and Professionals
- Earl A. Grollman |
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VIDEOS: |
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THE
COURAGE TO GRIEVE, THE COURAGE TO GROW:
Judy Tatelbaum, M.S.W., Psychotherapist, educator and author is nationally
known for her inspirational work leading people through the grieving
process. In the video she teaches you to recognize the stages of grief,
to develop tools for healing and to feel complete with grief. (45
minutes) |
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BLACKBERRIES
IN THE DARK:
From Disney Educational Products. Austin is going on his yearly visit
to his grandparent's farm, like every summer before...but this year
he is greeted only by his grandmother. For Austin, the place is filled
with memories that, at first, bring sadness and disappointment. This
sensitive program portrays the special relationship that develops
between grandson and grandmother as they learn together how to fill
the emotional and physical void left by Grandpa's death. Suggested
Audience: Bereaved Persons, Junior High/High School, Youth Organizations,
Community Groups, School or Public Libraries. (27 minutes) |
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DAVID'S
STORY: A TEEN SUICIDE:
Each year, an estimated 500,000 teenagers try to take their own lives.
Of the 5,000 who succeed, most give one or more warnings of their
intention. "David's Story" presents as in-depth study of
one teen's suicide to help students recognize the critical warning
signals of suicidal behavior. This program assures viewers that a
suicidal impluse is likely to pass if the potential victim can get
through the crisis period and get help for his/her problem. Suggested
Audience: Junior High/High School/College, PTA Meetings, Adult Education,
Service
Clubs. (28 minutes) |
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ADVICE
FOR FRIENDS OF THE BEREAVED:
This program was developed for the many people who ask, "What
should I say at the funeral home?" or "What can I do to
help?" The tape offers advice - what to do, what not to do -
when a friend loses a loved one. In producing the program, we talked
to individuals, who had actually lost a loved one, about their feelings.
They discuss what helped them during the time of the funeral and,
also what hurt. "Advice" also acquaints the audience with
the symptoms of grief, enabling them to know what they might expect
from their bereaved friend. Suggested Audience: Support Groups, Women's
or Service Clubs, High School or Adult Classes, In-House Training,
Clergy Groups, and Senior Citizen Groups.
(10 minutes) |
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FEELINGS:
A special program, designed to help people understand the intense
nature of one's grief-related emotions. It explains that the fear,
anger and guilt often felt following a death are all normal healty
reactions to what has occurred. Only by accepting these feelings and
expressing them will we begin to recover from our grief. "Feelings"
is appropriate for showing to bereaved individuals and groups, bereavement
support groups and in general community education settings. Dr. Earl
Grollman, noted author and lecturer, has said, "If it's mentionable...it's
manageable." It is our hope that "Feelings" will help
make grief and the emotions of grief better understood and therefore,
more manageable for the individual. (11 minutes) |
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WEBSITES: |
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GRIEFSHARE
- Grief recovery support groups |
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AFTERLOSS
- Learning how to cope with grief |
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GRIEF
RECOVERY ONLINE |
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